It’s hard to imagine moving forward without the person we love most – that’s the reality of Uvalde’s 21 family.
“They are facing a situation unlike anything they have experienced before,” said Mary Beth Fisk, executive director of the Ecumenical Center.
Eva Mireles’ daughter Adalynn shared a video of last year’s celebration with her mother. She wrote in part, “Tomorrow is the beginning of my first year without you.”
Amery Joe Garza’s mother Kimberly Garcia shared her sentiment, ‘You can’t get into the new year without a sweet girl.
Gloria Cazares ponders how to enter 2023 without being able to hug, touch, see or hear her daughter Jackie.
How would you like to have a new year where they can’t hug you, touch you, see you, or hear you? How would you like to live this life without you? My heart aches, my stomach is sick, my body is numb at the thought of leaving you behind in 2022… pic.twitter.com/FSy1M0VBhy
— Gloria Cazares (@GloriaCazares82) December 31, 2022
Meanwhile, Lexi Rubio’s mother Kimberly repeated the same words. She promised to stay forever in 2022.
I wish I could go back in time to you, but that seems like too much of a request. Instead, I’m staying here because I don’t want to stray far from my last memories with you.
Alexandria Anya Rubio, I am with you forever – in 2022 💛 pic.twitter.com/zqH3HE2bg2
— Kimberly Mata Rubio (@kimrubio21) December 31, 2022
But for survivors like Caitlin Gonzalez, her mother keeps a close eye on her.
“It’s just New Year’s Eve. This is not going back to a combat situation or an attack situation,” said Dr. Harry Croft. “Here it is. This is now.”
Dr. Croft is a PTSD expert. He said it is important not only to be prepared for all sensory triggers such as sight, smell and sound, but also to be prepared in a way to counter them.
— Lee Waldman (@LeighWaldman) January 1, 2023
“You tell yourself that I’m going to go through these things and you try to help dampen the startle reaction,” Croft said.
Mary Beth Fisk has been with Uvalde for many months as Director of the Uvalde Together Resiliency Center. She said the family needs to make plans for New Year’s Eve.
“Be honest with your kids. But as adults, make sure you’re putting in a protective factor for them,” Fisk said.
She explained that headphones and being indoors can muffle loud sounds, but creating a safe space is also important.
“See how you can feel safe and comforted when you’re together,” Fisk said.
Fisk and Croft also argue that seeking professional help is essential in treating PTSD long-term.
“This doesn’t usually go away on its own. So being treated and treated doesn’t necessarily mean taking medication. It could be talking about therapy and learning how to deal with these.” It’s a different way of experiencing life,” Dr. Croft said.
“It is very important to seek professional help to resolve it. You can definitely see progress, but contacting a licensed professional counselor in Texas is very important. Fisk said.
Equally important, be supportive of your loved one going through PTSD.
Let the person know that you are there for them and that it is okay if they are not okay.
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