A mother is accused of abuse after giving her autistic daughter a ‘tough love’ lesson.
Posting on the “r/AmITheA–hole” (AITA) subReddit, a forum where users try to find out if they were wrong in the dispute, she explained what happened.
In her post, a woman wrote that her 14-year-old autistic daughter had “poor hygiene,” especially during her monthly menstrual cycle.
Her daughter “ignored” all her warnings, despite repeatedly telling her that her hygiene habits were causing her to be bullied at school.
To teach her daughter a lesson, she decided to wear white pants to school during her period.
Women write that it takes a constant “fight” to get their menstruating daughters to shower, brush their teeth, and clean up after themselves.
Therefore, she was interested in whether or not the drastic measures would be communicated to her.
She wrote, “I wanted to see if you clean yourself so your pants are clean when you get home.”
Before sending my daughter to school, she had blood on her pants.
However, she refrained from telling her daughter.
Her daughter was bullied mercilessly at school because of her dirty trousers.
The woman wrote that her daughter “came home in tears” because her fellow students were “ruthless” in making fun of the stain.
She wrote that while it hurt to see her daughter subjected to such cruelty, “I didn’t see the change needed.”
She claimed the trick was a “life lesson” and that it worked in the end.
Her husband was furious at her approach, but said her daughter would “pay for this for the rest of the school year.”
Almost all Reddit users were horrified by the trick she played on her daughter, with many calling it abuse.
Most people agreed that there are no two ways to do this. A woman subjected her daughter to humiliation and trauma.
One wrote that the woman “set her child to be ridiculed – what a terrible thing she did.”
And many users were furious given how destructive bullying can be to their mental health.
As one put it, “I don’t think she understands how bad bullying is and how it can affect children…. can’t stand bullying Did you know that there are children who hurt themselves because of
“You’re not alone [the a–hole] But are you a bully who could seriously harm a child?”
Others were more outspoken, like one who wrote, “What a terrible mother, does she actually like her daughter?”
“Does she know how hard her life is? [high school] There are other ways to teach a lesson for this shit. “
Some people point out that it is very difficult for people with autism to understand social cues, such as hygiene standards, and that this move is even more harmful.
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One user wrote:
“There were many other ways. But the OP chose humiliation… Her daughter would be bullied for a long time. As if she had autism and didn’t stand out enough.” .”
And some felt that women’s “tough love” rose to the level of disability abuse.
“Try this: [Am I the a–hole] For the sadistic and public humiliation of my autistic daughter? “
“Yeah, yeah, you’re a hole. So you’re an abusive person.”
John Sundholm is a news and entertainment writer covering topics of pop culture, social justice and human interest.